The Comparison Trap

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” I recite this quote to myself almost daily, try to remind myself of it when I’m scrolling through social media, and maybe perhaps should get it tattooed on my forehead so I can see it every time I look in the mirror. Because, the thing is, I compare myself … More The Comparison Trap

Dear, Me

I judge you, dear one. Even though you graciously bow and listen, quietly refuting, every time I do.  I judge your thin hair and your pale skin. I judge every ridge, every blemish, everything that’s not quite in place. I try to change you, dear one. I try to squeeze you into spaces you don’t … More Dear, Me

Big White Lies

I always try to be honest. After years of lying to myself, and as a consequence (I’m ashamed to admit) lying to others, I have made it a mission to always be truthful. That’s sometimes difficult enough on it’s own, but it gets even trickier when the truth is not always so obvious, like when … More Big White Lies

On having it all

Approximately 4 years ago, I was sitting at a dinner table with mostly strangers- people from all over the world bonded by the marriage of a son and daughter.  I struck up a conversation with an older man who, for some reason, just seemed to get me. It was as if he understood me more … More On having it all